By Andy McNiel, MA & Pamela Gabbay, EdD, FT
This welcome addition to the field of childhood bereavement provides a clearly organized overview of innovative and practical interventions for human service professionals helping bereaved children and their families in a variety of settings. Written by noted experts with over 40 years of combined experience, this comprehensive, “how to” book provides a framework for understanding how grief resulting from a death impacts the lives of children, and includes models, techniques, and interventions for individual, family, and group counseling.
Based on best practices and the authors’ experience working with grieving families, this book describes how children are affected by the death of someone close to them, and provides a framework for addressing the needs of these children and their families and caregivers. The authors’ approach is straightforward and compassionate, and examples of children’s artwork reinforce the concepts discussed. Specific approaches are provided for individual and group support, including practical ways to create meaningful spaces for young people to find help, encouragement, and healing. In addition, the book offers a chapter on professional accountability, ethical concerns, and educational recommendations and training. Professionals who work with bereaved children daily, as well as those who only occasionally encounter them in their practice, will benefit from this book.
- Brimming with innovative, practical approaches for supporting bereaved children and teens, including “How to Help” sections and suggested activities to use with this population
- Provides individual, family, and group counseling models, techniques, and interventions
- Outlines effective strategies for working with bereaved youth that can be used in a variety of settings, including mental health, health care, schools, and faith communities
- Offers a useful framework for understanding how grief impacts the lives of children
- Provides visual and emotional dimensions to concepts through artwork created by bereaved children of different ages
- Includes a chapter devoted to professional and ethical considerations
What are people saying about this book?
"Understanding and Supporting Bereaved Children: A Practical Guide for Professionals by Andy McNiel and Pamela Gabbay is now required reading for my graduate student intern cohort here in Boston. I find it so useful and clear. It serves as a great introduction to those new to the field, and as a helpful affirmation to those of us who have been doing the work for a while!"
Jennifer Wiles, MA, LMHC, BC-DMT
Director of Children's Services
CareGroup Parmenter Home Care & Hospice, Inc.
Mount Auburn Hospital - Harvard Medical School Teaching Hospital
Heart Play Program
"This book is exactly what the authors intended it to be: a practical guide for professionals who work with bereaved children. Andy McNiel and Dr. Pamela Gabbay have written a comprehensive text that clearly demonstrates their many years of knowledge and experience working in the bereavement field. The authors have put together a book filled with solid information relevant to current practice in the field of Thanatology as well as excellent examples that link scholarly information to practical use. They also provide many wonderful activities in the book which can be used by professionals who work with bereaved children. As a professor at a local university teaching a course in grief counseling, my students use this as their required text for the course. They have given very positive feedback on this book and appreciate the clear, concise way in which the information is portrayed. This book is a must for professionals wanting to know more about how to work with bereaved children."
Lynn M. Snyder, LPC, ATR-BC, FT
Common Ground Grief Center
Manasquan, New Jersey
"I found this book to be a user’s guide to understanding both theoretical and practical information when working with grieving children. I really liked the entire set-up up the book, as the book was easy to understand and to use. I have already implemented some of the activities listed in the book."
Judy Zoppi Young
Rutgers University, Institute for Ethical Leadership
By Donna L. Schuurman, EdD, FT
Children and teens who experience the death of a parent are never the same. Only in the last decade have counselors acknowledged that children grieve too, and that unresolved issues can negatively impact children into adulthood. Unaddressed grief can lead to depression, substance abuse, and relationship difficulties. For at least three generations of adults, these issues have been largely ignored. Having worked with thousands of families as Executive Director of the Dougy Center for Grieving Children, Donna Schuurman understands the dangers of unresolved grief better than anyone else. In Never the Same, Schuurman offers expert advice and encouragement to empower readers to reflect on their unique situation, come to terms with the influence of their parent's death, and live more healthful, peaceful lives.
The only book of its kind, Never the Same is an essential companion for those still struggling with the early loss of a parent.
What are people saying about this book?
"This insightful, well-written, and eminently practical book is a must-read for anyone who, as a child or adolescent, experienced the death of a parent, as well as for counselors, therapists, and other human-service professionals who work with individuals who have experienced such a loss."
Albert Lee Strickland, Coauthor of The Last Dance: Encountering Death and Dying
"A remarkably jargon-free book that is filled with practical advice."
"If you, or anyone you know, had a parent die in childhood, drop everything and read this book. Dr. Schuurman's wisdom, humor, and conversational style engages the reader with thought-provoking insight and practical suggestions. This is not 'just another' self-help book: it could, quite literally, change lives."
Lynne Ann DeSpelder, Coauthor of The Last Dance: Encountering Death and Dying